First, I have to ask. Do you have a healing plan? If so, is it your plan and or did someone “who knows what you need” create it? My intention in this inquiry is to create clarity for you. Because one thing I know for sure, is that if you aren’t healing on your own terms and in your own time frame – you ain’t healing.
Believe me, I speak from experience.
For years, I fought and resisted any sort of healing conversation or modality. This was partially due to my overwhelming need to hold on to my resentment toward my alcoholic, neglectful parents as well as my secret plan to be the “one” who breaks the healer or the healing modality. I literally entered every healing opportunity with the intention of white-knuckling my way through in order to prove that it didn’t work. I knew I had a lot to heal, I also knew that I had no intention of giving in to my resentments, fears and anger. I spent years white-knuckling white knuckling my way through life. Frankly, I was tired. I knew something had to change or my past was going to be the end of me.
The turning point for me was not one earth-shattering “aha” moment.
Rather it was several seemingly disconnected moments that created a space to let just a little bit of healing appear. I found myself trying different healing modalities such as yoga, talk therapy, mindfulness and journal writing. Inside of each of these practices, I took bits and pieces of each that became healing tools for me. Without realizing, I created a customized healing toolbox for made by me, for me.
(Well played Universe, well played.)
I discovered the secret (for me) that was the key to accelerating my healing journey. Maybe if I share this secret with you, you will discover it is what you have been looking for. Or maybe it won’t. Maybe in my sharing, you will take what works for you and leave the rest. Either way is fine with me. I just want to support you along your own journey.
My big secret is… Commitment.
I committed to myself that I would to be open to trying new healing modalities and take what works for me and leave the rest. I also committed to heal on my own timeline and on my own terms. I also made a side deal with myself that if whatever I was trying didn’t work for me, I would lovingly send it along it’s merry way and move on to the next.
The result’s are in. I am a lovely, goofy, work in progress. Some days, I feel like I slayed my healing journey and some days, I don’t. On these troublesome days, I don’t admonish myself. Rather, I accept that this is part of my journey. And I remind myself, healing is not a one and done event. I recommit to myself and move along my path.
I invite you to review and or create your own healing plan. Customize this plan for you, about you, and in service of you. You will be amazed at what you can do when you commit to YOU. Leave a comment below sharing your healing tools. You never know who you will inspire.